When a KHN Member Experiences a Death in the Family…

1) Through August 2024, please contact Rabbi Michael Sarko, (his number is in the member directory) and he will help walk you through the decisions and timing for the funeral before you set the date with the funeral home or cemetery. He will guide you through the steps of contacting the funeral home, and cemetery, and deciding if you would like to arrange for a taharah (ritual washing of the body in preparation for burial).

2) If a cemetery burial is planned, Kol HaNeshamah has our Jewish cemetery section, Neve Zikaron, in Tukwila.  Or you may choose another cemetery and funeral home. KHN can provide you with names and contact information.

3) The rabbi will set up a time to meet with you and your family, to discuss your wishes for the funeral service. He will also ask you if you would like to have a shivah minyan or other memorial gathering at your home following the burial.

4) Jake Fawcett, of the Shiva Alliance, will reach out about a shiva when appropriate.

5) The head of Abraham and Sarah’s kitchen will help arrange for meals to be delivered to your house following the burial, if you would like, and learn of any special dietary needs.

6) A message will be sent to the community, notifying them of the death and sharing relevant information about shiva or funerals.


The Burial Society is one of the many opportunities for an engaged Jewish practice at KHN, please let us know if you would like to be involved in working with other members on any of these plans in development:

  • Training for taharah for KHN members of all genders;
  • Training lay leaders for service leadership;
  • Creation of a booklet for members of the congregation;
  • Creation of a booklet with relevant legal information;
  • Workshop: Preparations (using the URJ published book: Prepare to Die, by Richard Address);
  • Pre-planning.